Spending my days with my boy brings me great joy. However, because he still sleeps so much, I have come to realize this: I have no friends. Well, no friends that live in my city. I know, I know, I've complained about this before. But when I was working, it wasn't a really big deal. I had enough work aquaintences to visit with that I didn't want to go out and hang out with anyone in the evenings. I am missing my friend, a SAHM, who moved away last year. We had planned on spending many days together with our kids before C. was born. Then he died and she moved away. Glum, glum, glum. It makes me feel really lonely, sometimes.
So if it seems like I have too much time on my hands for online relationships, well, it's because I do have too much time on my hands.
(Ignoring the messy house and the take out meals, of course...)
In January of 2005, my son C. died. Then he was born. These are the 8 million pieces of my life, as I pick them up,one by one.
And now, featuring the addition of our second beautiful child, BB and his lovely sister E.
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3 comments:
Yes, it can be lonely...which is why you should consider meeting up with some of us IRL! We're thinking about a get-together soon. Email me and let me know if you want to join us.
I think the way life is structured makes it hard to make new friends, especially if you're not working. It takes so much effort to find people you click with and then, once you've found them, it seems they usually move away. Okay, I'll stop, since I'm beginning to even depress myself.
But I hope you feel better. I think one of the worst things is feeling alone in the world.
I found i would get very lonely and also somewhat bizarre emotionally when i was home alone with Chloe. Especially on mondays. Things which helped me were: taking her out for walks, when the weather was nice...even a long way (it was a good mile to town -- mile walk, coffee, mile back), and also talking on the phone (to my online friends LOL). I also made a serious to cultivate local friendships and did eventually make some very good ones. This is hard and takes time...mommy friends who have a like mentality are not always easy to find (i don't mean loss moms, but you know -- people who you can really be friends with). But it is worth the effort and time, especially as the kiddos grow older and can really benefit from interaction with other children...
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