This weekend, disaster struck again and my other cousin's wife miscarried. It seems that both brothers will be marking that April due date in the same way.
I sent a care package of books and a sympathy card to Cousin A. I will send a sympathy card to Cousin B tomorrow. I don't have more books to send, so will have to ask Cousin A to pass them to Cousin B when they are done with them.
I wish that I could say that I am surprised and shocked. But, like it or not, I live in a world where the surprise comes when a baby lives. I am so sad that my cousins now know this sorrow. I much preferred feeling jealous of their naivete to sharing in their sorrow.
Reminded again how fairness has nothing to do with it.
In January of 2005, my son C. died. Then he was born. These are the 8 million pieces of my life, as I pick them up,one by one.
And now, featuring the addition of our second beautiful child, BB and his lovely sister E.
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8 comments:
How is it possible that I know -- or know of -- so many people who end up on the wrong side of the odds?
I'm so sorry that both of these families have suffered a loss.
You are right, fairness just isn't a factor.
So sorry to hear of yet another loss in your family. Yeah, there is no freaking fairness.
I am just so sorry for this. Keeping these families in my thoughts.
~Carole
I'm really sorry. Our deepest fears proved right over and over again...
I am so sorry. I know though that both of your cousins will be grateful for your kindness and understanding.
I'm so sorry. And yeah, fairness is something I no longer believe in at all.
Delurking to say I'm glad your cousins have you.
It's odd, I don't know ANYONE in real life who's had a single loss, just people whose babies turned out OK against terrible odds.
My SIL is pregnant with a baby due days before the baby I just lost.
I know, without a doubt, the baby will be fine.
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