Wednesday, June 27, 2007

I'm just plain snoopy

So I got a couple of (really nice) anonymous comments. Which is cool. But not knowing who you are or where you are from makes me SOOOOO curious. Who are you? Why do you read? Are you a regular or did you just happen to come across my blog and found you could offer something to the conversation?

Rather than pick on my very sweet anonymous friends, let's play a game. According to my stats, I get about 40-50 visits a day. So I would love to know who you are. Leave me a comment. Like this:

Hi, Siku the polar bear here. From Churchill, Manitoba, Canada.*** I'm not a regular reader. I'm a bear. Bears can't read.

Or something like that. Just a few words. You can remain anonymous, I'm okay with that. Just leave me a little "I wuz here" note. To satisfy my curiosity.


P.S. This game can be played by lurkers and non-lurkers alike. Just so you know.

***You may want to get out to Churchill and see the polar bears before they're all gone. Just a thought.

31 comments:

missing_one said...

Hi, this is Jen, am I your only lurker? I check your blog a lot but rarely have anything to comment.
I'm out in the East Bay, California. but no, I am not fortunate enough to live on a beach. In fact, the closest beach is a good hour away.

Sarah said...

Not a lurker... just saying hi since i was one of your hits today (and probably about 4-5 days a week... since i'm back to being blog obsessed) :)

niobe said...

Well, you know I hang around here.

kari said...

hi, i'm kari and i'm a regular reader. my first daughter was stillborn at 38 wks almost two years ago. then i had her sister, who is now almost a year old. so i really relate to you. especially your post about the sun coming out ... i know exactly what you mean.

KTP said...

I'm Kim, and I found your blog (through Nate's Momma) when I first found that I was pregnant with MY second boy back in August 06. I blog/Googled "Faint pink line" and found Laura's blog, never having the smallest notion that there was a whole subculture of...forgive me...dead baby blogs. I read her entire story that day, sobbing through the whole thing, and I followed her links and found you, Rosepetal, and Silly Hummingbird. I could have read more, but I had to stop myself.

Sometimes I feel guilty leaving comments here or on those other blogs, with my profile picture of me and my older son. I have not endured what you all have, and I wonder if I am welcomed here or not. I certainly would not blame you or the others if you resented me. I admit that my interest in your blogs started out as a morbid fascination, but the reason I continued reading (all the above except for Silly Hummingbird because she stopped posting often around Thanksgiving) is because of the writing. It is often very sad, yes, but I do not begrudge you your sadness. But it is always poignant or funny or thoughtful and overall simply well done. That's what makes a good blog good, whatever the subject.

On a not quite related note, I recently discovered the blog of a woman who lost her husband only weeks before their first child was born. He was a student of my husband's, but I had never met his wife. Her blog is also very well-written and terribly sad but with all the hope in her child that you speak of yourself.

I am glad for you that this blog (and those of others who have lost children) is a tool to work through your emotions and to memorialize your son. For what it's worth, your experiences have made me more sensitive to new mothers, although I have not yet met anyone who has lost a child the way you have.

This may be the longest comment I've ever left someone. But hey, you asked.

Angel Mom said...

I lurk here every day and have for about a year now. I've never commented though. Guilty of doing that on a lot of blogs...

delphi said...

ktp and others - you are definately welcome to comment! Always. I don't mind your profile picture - you look so happy! Though it may sometimes come across like I hate anyone who hasn't experienced stillbirth, that is very far from the truth. This is just my venting space, so I can see how it might seem that way.

I occasionally lurk on your blog, too, ktp, so consider this my de-lurking!

Mrs Macgyver said...

I have been lurking for about a month now. I keep finding new blogs, linking from another persons blog, and then go back and read the archives! Then I end up hooked and continue to lurk!

My son Laurent was stillborn at full-term in April last year. I enjoy reading other Mum's blogs, as I can really relate! Just never felt I had anything of value to add...

Now that I've started my own blog I may comment a little more....

Z said...

not a lurker but a regular reader from san antonio, texas!

Lori said...

Oh, just stop me from commenting! Look at me, I don't even fit the criteria for this post and I still have something to say! :)

I have to say though that this is why I am kind of glad I don't have a way of checking my stats. I have no idea how many "hits" I get, so I don't have to live with wondering why people read but don't comment. I think it's better that way for me.

Oh, and KTP, speaking for myself I have no problem with mothers who have not experienced a loss visiting and commenting on my blog. I know I am different than some because I have living children, but I like to think that our subculture of dead baby blogs might be a tool to educate others. I think it is actually wonderful that you are willing to enter our world and try to understand.

Rosepetal said...

Well, I'm not a lurker although my commenting has been few and far between of late. I live in Fre.nch speaking Sw.it.zer.land (it is a very small country hence the dots, as I blog anonymously) but I grew up in north-eastern England. I'm proud to be a regular reader of yours.

Patience said...

Not a lurker but do like to come visit!

Catherine said...

You know I'm here. :o)

Julie said...

::waving frantically::
I'm here, just haven't been commenting much since most of my time on the computer is one handed. I'm still reading though.

Anonymous said...

I'm Megan in Ottawa. I've been an obsessive lurker on dead baby blogs since my daughter, Georgia, was stillborn at term on March 1. I can't tell if reading them helps or not. It's good to know that the thoughts I'm having are the same as other women who've had this unbelievably shitty thing happen to them and not a sign that I'm a crazed, hateful freak. But now I can't stop thinking about all the ways babies can die...

Laura said...

Hey, I stop by every day :) I need to leave comments more often, though. I'm sorry. This is a great idea! I might have to copy off of you sometime. I visit here not just because we have the loss of our first sons in common, but because I think that you're just brilliant, you're a great writer, and you've been an amazing friend to me and so many others. The comments that you leave me are always so comforting. And it's been so neat to watch you fall in love with BB and it gives me, and I know lots of others, an enormous amount of hope.

And that's my squishy moment for the day :)

xo

Shinny said...

Hi,
Trying this again, blogger ate my first attempt. I have been a lurker for over a year, via Catherine. Don't usually have too much to say but might surprise you someday. ;)

Ruby said...

I just found your blog a week or two ago. I'm not (exactly) a lurker, I just comment when I have something to say/add.

msfitzita said...

Yeah, you know me too. Hi! (You can't see me but I'm waving).

I often wonder who visits my blog too. There are far more hits then comments and every once in a while I get very, very curious about those comment-less hits.

And then I forget. Because I have the attention span of a gnat.

The end.

sakura said...

Hi,

I visit sometimes and really never comment anywhere, but since you asked, I'll delurk. I lost my son, my daughter's twin 3.5 years ago. Though things are easier now, I look back and see the ways in which his death changed me. I am so different now but oddly, noone around me seems to understand this. So I visit yours and other blogs because your experiences relate to mine and I feel a little less out of step with life.

Thanks...

Anonymous said...

My name is actually Anonymous said... hehehe

delphi said...

I know where you live "actually".

:)

kate said...

you know i'm here too LOL

Kim said...

I am Kim, I am from Louisville, Kentucky, but am currently living in Southern California for the summer (Hi up there, Jen). I am lonely and bored out of my mind, but at least I am getting a tan? Anyway. I found your blog through a link from a link...you get the picture. I have a close family friend who suffered a stillbirth 26 years ago, and I still think of that baby - we would be the same age - and so your stories help me identify with her mom, just a little.

Aussie Kate said...

I'm here too *waves frantically*

My whole household has been sick for 2 weeks, hence who its taken me this long to check in ;)

I am a regular, as you know, and have found so many times that you put my deepest feelings into words. My biggest thanks to you for doing so.

Aussie Kate

BasilBean said...

Hi,
I've only started reading your blog very recently, but I've seen your comments on a few of the blogs that I read regularly. I lost my son William in February of 2006 due to PTL/IC. We were going to start trying again after a year, but now that is on-hold. I look forward to reading your blog.

Aurelia said...

Well, if I delurk now, I'll just feel silly, ooops, what you already knew about me!

I do think it's great that you have people who read about your story and feel solace. You're doing good in the world, one post at a time!

Julia said...

Hi... I am late to the party. I wonder in a couple of times a week, or less, on busy weeks.

I often wonder about my no-comment hits too... but I figure they will speak some day. Right?

CappyPrincess said...

Hi, Stephanie lurking here from Madison, WI. I travel the universe finding blogs that make me laugh, make me cry, and generally touch the human condition. I can't say I've experienced your loss (because it's yours, not mine) but I do understand the loss of a baby as well as the hopes and dreams you held for that life.

You have my long distance support as you travel your journey.

Rebecca said...

I was here. Someone linked to you. Hi :)

D+D Janzen said...

I bet you didn't expect to get one of these posts 3 years later. I find your blog fascinating - and perfectly in line with some of the thoughts that go through my head. My name is Darcie, I lost my twin boys 2 months ago, at 23 weeks gestation.
I currently live in Alberta, but I grew up in Ontario!