tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24605535.post115621462422897629..comments2023-10-11T05:47:54.958-06:00Comments on Eight Million Pieces: Issues, issuesdelphihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07529670960180261467noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24605535.post-1156292719056790102006-08-22T18:25:00.000-06:002006-08-22T18:25:00.000-06:00I don't really have that benchmark child. Not real...I don't really have that benchmark child. Not really. There are times where we are in playgroup situations with Evan, and there is a kid there that is about 3 and a half, and sometimes, I think, this is the age Caleb would be. But not always. But I *do* distance myself from those kids. I stay away from them, if I can. <BR/><BR/>For me, I constantly look at Evan and wonder if this is what Caleb would have been like. Even though Evan is the younger brother, he's all I have to compare Caleb to. I don't do it AS OFTEN as I did the first year though. I think we will always look at other children and wonder what the ones we lost would have been like. <BR/><BR/>We were so robbed.Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05677254184072806142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24605535.post-1156267040344292532006-08-22T11:17:00.000-06:002006-08-22T11:17:00.000-06:00I don't have alot of childbearing friends or a ver...I don't have alot of childbearing friends or a very big family so i don't actually have a milestone child for Nicolas. Well, yes, one exists, but he is my father's wife's first grandchild (from her first marriage) and they live on the west coast now so i have never actually seen him. Thank GOD. She (father's wife) sent me their mass-produced christmas letter that first christmas with all of PJ's pictures and blah-blah. Dumb bitch. I called her on it too. <BR/><BR/>Aaaaaaaanyway...<BR/><BR/>Actually my 'milestone' child is one we met 2 years ago, when Alexander started at his school at the time and one of his new friends had a little brother. This little brother is about a year older than Nicolas would be but they are a petite family so he is about the same size. We have become friends with this family (Chloe just *adores* the little boy) and hang around with them fairly often, and it doesn't bother me at all. Only sometimes does it hit -- like last weekend when i was pushing them *both* on the swings in the playground. But it is okay.katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16536809590856333391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24605535.post-1156263936419014452006-08-22T10:25:00.000-06:002006-08-22T10:25:00.000-06:00I have the reverse situation. We lost our daughter...I have the reverse situation. We lost our daughter at 18 months of age- but she had a younger sister already born. So each year, now that her younger sister is older then her- I think, 'This is how my eldest would have looked if she had seen this birthday.' For the most part, it's easily dealt with- only with the big milestones do I choke. Like the first day of school...Katalysthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05852656584024617736noreply@blogger.com