tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24605535.post115612807029328797..comments2023-10-11T05:47:54.958-06:00Comments on Eight Million Pieces: Farewell privacydelphihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07529670960180261467noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24605535.post-1156214756195115502006-08-21T20:45:00.000-06:002006-08-21T20:45:00.000-06:00Thanks for the support, everyone. Also, thanks Ca...Thanks for the support, everyone. Also, thanks Catherine for the alternate view of your pregnacy with Chloe. I am going to try on this "liberation" approach and see if it fits.delphihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07529670960180261467noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24605535.post-1156211903238479052006-08-21T19:58:00.000-06:002006-08-21T19:58:00.000-06:00grief and joy certainly can coexist in life. and t...grief and joy certainly can coexist in life. and they often do.<BR/><BR/>don't try to figure that one out. just go where your feelings take you, and know it's ok to feel the way you do.<BR/><BR/>**enter new age musical chimes** :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24605535.post-1156197294587991012006-08-21T15:54:00.000-06:002006-08-21T15:54:00.000-06:00Sometimes people should just shut up :) I think it...Sometimes people should just shut up :) I think it makes other people feel more comfortable if they think that you're "over it". When of course we all know that it's not a question of getting over it, it's a question of finding a way to remember and not fall apart. (((Big hug)))Ann Howellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02330639889849276318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24605535.post-1156181162886862252006-08-21T11:26:00.000-06:002006-08-21T11:26:00.000-06:00What's with the snakes on a plane? I am so out of...What's with the snakes on a plane? I am so out of touch these days...<BR/><BR/>Ugh, what a horrible thing to have to do -- to be in a situation where all those (well-meaning but idiotic) folks all know at once. I must say i was spared this indignity with my sub pg -- there were no family events attended. Heh.<BR/><BR/>I know this is kind of wierd but during my pg with Chloe i found the implication that i had 'moved on' rather liberating. It made me feel more free to talk about Nicolas. Because i had demonstrably 'moved on' in the way that society expects us to -- by trying to have another baby, a 'replacement' in people's eyes perhaps -- i felt like i could talk about him and what happened to him without people thinking that i 'had to get over it'. And hopefully some people would see that ALL my children are the most important part of my life, and none of them are 'something to get over'. Doubt it did any good, but one can hope ;)katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16536809590856333391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24605535.post-1156134779835789862006-08-20T22:32:00.000-06:002006-08-20T22:32:00.000-06:00Congratulations--you've managed to articulate some...Congratulations--you've managed to articulate something I don't think I ever did in my subsequent pregnancy. The loss of privacy, and the feeling that everyone around you takes your pregnancy as a sign that you are "over it" (as you get the feeling they think you should have been AGES ago) can be overwhelming. And yes, grieving one baby while trying to grow another one with all eyes on you is extremely uncomfortable, to say the least. Your "snakes on a plane" reference cracked me up. We've been keeping the radio in the nursery tuned to NPR all day and night, and have heard all the stories in circulation--somehow I hear all the "snakes on a plane" jokes, but managed to miss hearing about the film...Julian's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17397098484658409058noreply@blogger.com